healing looks like letting go of people who no longer serve a positive purpose on your journey. healing looks like letting go and creating new habits for your journey. healing looks like crying and being angry and being sad and being okay with dealing with and going through all of those uncomfortable emotions.
the biggest challenge on my journey toward healing was letting go. letting go is one of the hardest things we experience especially when it comes down to letting go of people you have shared a significant amount of space with. when letting go of people, i had to realize it didn't mean pretending like they no longer existed. letting go was coming to the realization that they served their purpose in my life and that it was time for me to move forward and that the journey forward did not include them. as human beings, we get attached to people and things whether it's quickly or over time. once we have attached ourselves to these things/beings outside of ourselves and we lose them or get to this space of having to release them, we experience a great sense of loss. we feel almost blind. it's like teaching yourself how to... live again. how to live life without this person. and, often times, when letting go, we try to ignore the pain of it.
mourn that loss.
it is a loss: you're losing a part of your life. but you're gaining so much more. you're gaining freedom. you're gaining a new lenses, a different perspective, a new way to view and walk through your life... through your purpose. i had to learn to honor and listen to the signs of the universe. the universe will tell you when someone's purpose has been fulfilled. we just have to be open to receiving that sign.
in thinking about this idea of letting go, i always tended to put my energy and focus into beings who showed me that they were not interested in fulfilling a permanent position in my life but i held on anyway. i had to get to a space where i believed that i was worthy and deserving of loving myself. i had to learn that i was worthy and deserved to receive love and support from genuine spirits. once i learned that, this process of letting go became easier. it became easier to shift my energy into the people who showed up for me. people who showed me they were down to ride for me.
no one said it’d be easy but they promised, after all is said and done, that it’d be worth it.
blessed journeying. blessed healing.
photo credit: roderick henderson